The River, the Kettle and the Bird: A Torah Guide to a Successful Marriage

The unusual title, The RIVER, the KETTLE, and the BIRD refers to an age-old Jewish saying that describes three successive levels of peace found in a happy marriage. Based on traditional Jewish sources, this distinctive volume enlists the profound wisdom and insight of traditional Judaism to come to the aid of contemporary married life. A sound structure cannot stand unless it rests on firm foundations, and the focus here is to examine the necessary foundations of a fulfilling relationship: the goal of marriage, the criteria for choosing a mate, understanding the different natures of male and female, controlling anger and criticism, fostering love, giving and gratitude. The modern marriage, given today s complex societal state, finds itself under attack, and challenged from severe social and financial pressures, it can use all the support and fortification it can get. Deeply rooted in reality, not fantasy, this illuminating guide provides the essential tools and understanding all couples need to ensure a marriage that not only survives, but thrives.