It’s Ok To Tell My Story!: Surviving Common Law Domestic Violence

“I love you, but I don’t want to die for you.” That was Gionnolen’s mantra for surviving domestic violence.  Similar to thousands of other domestic violence victims, the successful business owner, retired military veteran, and college graduate Gionnolen felt the psychological, emotional, financial, and psychical abuse she endured from her ex-common-law husband was her fault. The continuous betrayals, lack of affection, cruel words, and violent outbursts Gionnolen endured at the hands of her abuser during their eight-year relationship made her question her sanity and self-worth, and she felt more hopeless and alone as each day passed. Finally, Gionnolen realized enough was enough when her ex decided to return home one early morning after being gone all night, he had the most ridiculous excuse, a total disregard, and a lack of disrespect. She knew he’d cheated on her again, but as so many women do, she wanted the closure of him admitting to the deed. As a result, Gionnolen prayed to God for strength to do what had to be done to leave and never return to that man, because she knew she deserved better. After her last physical attack, Gionnolen began the strenuous and tiring process of repairing what had been destroyed. She knew the abuse did not happen overnight and that healing would take time. Gionnolen was determined to take her control back from her abuser and regain her strength by re-learning who she was, and she continued to love herself through the trials while striving to reach inner peace. IT’S OK TO TELL MY STORY is written with passion, heart, and an unbelievable sense of sadness, which outline Gwendolen’s personal experience with common-law domestic violence abuse viewed through the eyes of the main character, Gionnolen. This book demonstrates how God’s love and strength, domestic violence therapy, and the support of friends and family enabled Gionnolen to break the cycle of abuse, obtain control of her life, and determine who she is, understanding that “I must love myself before I let anyone else love me” and “I am worthy of love!”