Before the Broom: A Premarital Workbook for Dating, Engaged, and Newly Married African American Couples

Are you Black and in love? Strengthen your bond and discover true intimacy with your partner before you “jump the broom.” Before the Broom is an indispensable workbook—the resource you need to facilitate self-reflection and communication between you and your partner to equip you for lifelong marital happiness. Renowned psychologists and couples therapists Erica Holmes, Ronecia Lark, and Jessica M. Smedley have collaborated to provide easy-to-follow exercises that explore many common areas of relational conflict, examined through a historic lens specific to the Black American experience of the past, present, and future. The authors use the concept of Sankofa, a metaphorical symbol used by the Akan people of Ghana, as a guiding principle—it’s the idea that reaching back to knowledge gained in the past and bringing it into the present will fuel positive progress. Before the Broom shows couples how reflecting on past experiences, current practices, and future desires will improve connection, fuel understanding, and reveal areas for growth. Full of practical tools and strategies to navigate relationships within the context of racial identity and past experiences with racism, Before the Broom guides couples to see that together, with open hearts and honest communication, they can ensure a strong foundation for ongoing contentment. Whether you’re about to make a marriage proposal, already engaged and hoping to build a strong foundation for the future, or newly married and realizing there are areas in your relationship that could use extra attention, make your way through this collaborative workbook together. With eight main topical lessons, this book offers journal prompts and quizzes along with professional guidance from experts who keep it real. Get ready to set yourself up for a happy and satisfying marriage that lasts for life.